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Life is good with Real Purpose and Meaning


Money really matters but more importantly meaning to a life really matters for a good life.Without a purpose or meaning is like without an eye sight. 

The forward was needed before sharing an article I recently came across about the study done by Metlife  Mature Market Institute(MMI)  in continuation to their 2009 study. It was titled Meaning Really Matters: The MetLife Study on How Purpose Is Recession-Proof and Age-Proof.

Let me share some good and important snapshots about the study.


In 2009 study, it was asked to people in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s have the same priorities and find meaning from the same activities as 45- to 74-year-olds? Do adults in very different life stages and situations prioritize important personal, professional, and financial decisions based on similar core values?  This 2010 study focused on ages 45-74 to discover What Matters: Balancing Money, Medicine, and Meaning.

Both studies are based on the work of life coach and best-selling author Richard Leider, and confirm his theories. To Leider, a sense of purpose is integral to leading what he describes as “the Good Life,” defined as having financial freedom (Money), being mentally and physically healthy (Medicine), creating deep relationships and a sense of purpose (Meaning), and feeling like you belong (Place). Achieving the Good Life requires vigilant revisiting and realigning of priorities in these four areas.

Living the Good Life also means weathering significant changes and transitions caused by positive or negative “trigger events” (i.e., job loss, marriage, illness, the birth of a child or grandchild, divorce, moving, retirement, death of a loved one). Leider believes these events are resolved in three phases:

Unpacking, or letting go of the way things used to be, involves sorting out what is really important and makes people happy from what is not important and holds them back.

Repacking, or taking hold of the new way that will allow people to attain their Good Life, involves the clarification of values, new goals, and the discovery of new tools for getting there. It is the process of mapping out the road ahead — one that will truly take them where they want to go with the life essentials they want to bring along the way.

Limbo is a state of flux and uncertainty between unpacking and repacking. It is a period where people’s “vision” of what they want their future to be is uncertain, or where they lack “focus” on the most important aspects that will get them closer to their Good Life.




Key Findings of the 2010 Study
The Essential Components of the Good Life Are Very Stable

• Respondents define the Good Life in terms of the three Ms: Money (having enough), Meaning (time for friends and family), and Medicine (good physical and mental health).

• Living the Good Life is highly related with having a sense of purpose and this in turn is interrelated with “vision” (having clarity about the path to the Good Life) and “focus” (knowing and concentrating on the most important things that will get you to your Good Life).

• Meaning, closely associated with the importance of family and friends, remains the primary component of the Good Life for all age groups, despite instability in financial and other aspects of their life. People plan to spend time with amily and friends above all else, regardless of age.

How do you define a Good life?

Ah, the Good Life!

Respondents defined it as:
• “Being spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically healthy”
• “Having enough money not to worry about whether or not I can pay the bills; good
friends to share life with”
• “Having a safe, healthy, and happy life with family and friends”


The chief Components of the Good Life: Living with Purpose, Having a Positive Vision of Your Future, and Focusing on What Will Get You There.



Similar to the 2009 study, purpose continues to be a major differentiator between those living the Good Life and those who aren’t living the Good Life. Over eight in 10 (82%) of those who feel their lives have purpose are living the Good Life compared to 35% who are not living the Good Life.


Purpose is more than an intriguing concept; it is essential for fulfillment. It also helps people get through “trigger” events that everyone will inevitably encounter, whatever their life stages or circumstances. Richard Leider provides particular insight into the complexities and ultimate benefits of balancing money, medicine, meaning, and place in our own personal journey:



“The longevity revolution demands a new mindset and skills, not to mention courage. As life expectancy continues to increase, Money, Medicine, Meaning, and Place will become even more significant and challenging. Yet, these challenges can also be positive because they can lead to new points of view and knowledge essential to succeed in the future.”

The need for the purpose and meaning resonates closely with my mantra of having Goals in your life and defining plans(vision) to get there executing with taking action(focus). 

You can read more about this study from the study.

Source courtesy: mymoneyblog.com

Clearing the CFP Exam…

The wait was over last month when I finally got my CFP Exam result. It was a mixed feeling when I opened the result. I wasn’t so sure about the result because of the performance. I was told by many that I will pass but I myself wasn’t really sure. It was a tough exam and I was told by instructors that nobody can be sure about passing after taking the exam.

It took almost 8 weeks to get result because of the special grading process carried out by CFP Exam board to take every possible situation to grade the exam. It is little robust but it seems to work in favor of candidates in many conditions. To know more about the grading process, check out this article. Also they won’t annouce the results publicly instead send out the result to each candidate via post mail. I wasn’t here to see it immediately as I was in vacation in India. I paid visit to the mail box as soon I got home.

I opened the mailbox and saw loads of letters and ads. It took me a bit to find out a envelop from CFP board. I found and opened up to see the form to send my experience proof. So I turn it around and found the Congratulation letter. I just wanted to yell out loud which did as soon I got home. It was a surprise for sure. There is no score or percentage. It was just merely a comparison of my performance with the threshold level.  I scored 4 modules little above threshold but 1 module just about and 1 module just close to the level.

Anyway, I am happy to pass as one among 51.3% people who passed the Nov 2010 CFP exam. It was an amazing feeling. I never worked so hard after my bachelors and never had to wait so long to see the result. It was worth the wait for sure.



Special Thanks to my wife who always supported me on this adventure. Thanks to all CFP Course Tutors, CFP Dalton Review group of instructors.



The journey is not over yet. I just reached one more destination in getting my CFP. I still have to get through the last hurdle of showing my work experience for atleast 3 years. Let’s see how it goes and will keep you all posted.

Goals are good…

Dawn of every new year brings more talks about Self discipline, Self improvements using different methodologies. It is good to think about self improvement atleast once year if you don’t concentrate more during the year. I believe every New year adds a brand new page in our lives giving us opportunities to either work on our new dreams or continue to stay on course with our current goals.

It is a good thing to think about resolutions and goals at the start of the year so you can try to accomplish them to end the year in a good note.

Goals are good compared to resolutions as per many experts because resolutions have tendency to erode and lose the importance as the days go on. As per some survey, 50% resolutions are been broken within a week and many break all their resolutions less than 3 months.. The reason, resolutions don’t have definite plan of action. On the other hand, goals work differently. It can be broken down to smaller milestones and  plans can be drafted which can be follow through with actions. I know, it is easier said then done.

I read an article in Costco Connections about a book named, “Succeed: How we can reach our goals?”. The author talks about people behavior and how many can reach their goals and not other. She says others can also do the same by building their “Self control muscle“.  One reason she mentions that people think they don’t have the inbuilt ability to do so compared to others who succeed. That is wrong. She says, not everybody is born smart but smartness can be achieved overtime with great perseverance. Another book named “Talent is Overrated: What seperates word class performers and others also proves that fact. She suggest motivating kids by saying you are smart might be good compliment but encouraging their perseverance and effort goes a long way.

She continues to say that many don’t success because they don’t have plan or follow through action for their goals and suggest to use her “If-then” method. If I get $100 more than last month, I will put in savings. It seem to have worked for her. If it’s monday and wednesday, I will work out. It might seem like kids home work but that’s basis and works well. To read the full article, visit costcoconnection.com

Everyone is different. What I do is, I usually categorize the goals as Personal, Financial, and Family goals. I prioritize them and jot them in a big white board in my study room so I can see them every day. I draft plan for one goal at a time and follow through by taking action. That’s about it. 

Small amount of time spent on everyday on one or multiple goals can surely take to your destination. Example, I wanted to be a CFP(Certified Financial Planner) and made it as a goal in 2008. I planned one step at time. I completed the course in 2010, took the exam and completed CFP exam 2010 end. Currently, I am working to get some experience so I can be a CFP?. I don’t have finance background but I am just determined to get a CFP?. That’s my goal and I am working towards it.

Don’t give “NO TIME” as silly excuse. Everyone only got 24 hours a day and 12 hours to actually do something productive. If you don’t find time to all, concentrate atleast one or two important things so you can say at the end of this year, you have something to write in your life book. To make this year a good one or better is in your hands, start something this month and plan to follow through.

All the best…

PS: Thanks to mymoneyblog.com author Jonathan who shared about “Talent is Overrated” book.